A Christian matchmaking program for singles who want to
leave dating apps behind
An exclusive dating program that shows you how to be the right one so you can find the right one. The only people in this program are those who are as intentional as you are about being the right one so they can find the right one - you.
Healthy people in healthy dating relationships lead to healthier marriages and healthier families
Applying costs nothing and takes about 20 minutes.
FOUNDING MEMBERS* apply now for the lowest pricing that will ever be offered
*Currently only offered for singles ages 21-28 located between Milwaukee, WI and Chicago, IL
Why not just use an app?
Apps provide a huge selection of people that you have to weed through on your own using trial and error. It’s time-consuming, emotionally draining, and discouraging.
You can do that if you want to. But that’s not what we do.
This program attracts people who are looking for something real, high quality, and serious. It draws people who are willing to put in the work to find high-quality people AND to BE a high-quality person. The structure of the program automatically weeds out casual daters and creepy people.
Apps also don’t help you discern your needs, coach you to become relationally healthier, or prepare you for what is beyond dating. This program does all of that.
This is for you if you
Don’t want to have to endlessly scroll and swipe, trying to guess who might be a good match for you
Don’t want to have to upload the perfect photo of yourself and think of what to write on a dating profile to attract the right people
Want a pool of already-vetted people with similar values, interests, and goals
Want a relationship built on your Christian faith and headed toward marriage
Are willing to not only look for the right person but to be the right person by honestly examining your own habits, history, needs, and expectations
Are safe and mature and are looking for the same
1. Apply
Free
Tell us about your background, your goals, and your expectations. Questions cover your testimony, relationship history, employment, Christian views, and your dealbreakers. Be candid. Every answer helps us know whether the program is a good fit and how to match you.
2. Meet the Relationship Coach
$99
After your application is reviewed, you will receive an email with a link to schedule a one-hour phone session with a Relationship Coach. You will go in-depth about who you are, your readiness for a relationship, what you’re looking for, and where you are spiritually and relationally.
3. Start the program
Choose the format that suits you. Each option is six two-hour sessions
Group Program
$599
Six two-hour interactive sessions on Zoom (no video for participants) with other singles in the program
Private Program
$1200
The same sessions as above but one-on-one in six two-hour sessions
4. Get matched or mingle
Once you finish your six sessions, you’re ready to date. There are two paths:
The match
$999
When a strong match is available right away, you get an introduction, a suggested date venue based on your common interests, and conversation questions
The mingle
$99/mo
Meet others who completed the program in a designed monthly mingle until you are matched
5. Ongoing relationship coaching
$150/mo
After the six sessions you continue the program with up to 2 one-on-one sessions each month with a dating coach to learn advanced skills and get tips and feedback.
The Six-Session Preparation and Meet-Up Program
These six interactive sessions are the heart of the program. You spend these Zoom sessions getting to know yourself and learning how to build a relationship that is healthy and will stay that way. You also get to know the other singles in the program so that you can begin to discern if any of them might be a good match. The sessions intentionally do not use video so that impressions can be made first on the basis of character and not on what people look like. Here is what the program consists of::
Core Needs Survey. Discover your core needs, where they came from, and how to ensure they get met.
Relationship Expectations. Explore prior relational dynamics and discover their impact on your current expectations.
Values and Worldview. Identify what is important to you to ensure a good match.
Personal and Relationship Goals. Articulate goals, including who you are, who you are becoming, and what you’d like a future spouse to be like.
Healthy Relationship Model. Learn the 5 stages to forming a healthy relationship that lead to certainty about whether the one you’re with is the one for you.
Preferences and Dealbreakers. Know what you want and where to draw the line.
Before the proposal. Questions to ask and how to involve family and friends.
Marriage planning. Most people plan for the wedding but fail to plan for the marriage. Examine your concept of marital roles and expectations to ensure a healthy, happy forever.
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No. The application is free. Your first paid step is the two-hour meet-the-designer session, and only if you're accepted
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We can't promise a match, a relationship, or a marriage. What we can promise is preparation, honest guidance, and a careful introduction when there's someone suited to you
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The benefit of this program is that there doesn’t need to be hundreds or thousands of people available to be matched with because there are, instead, an exclusive selection of people who have already been vetted as being similar to you in that they are invested in their faith, their personal growth, and the health of their relationships. Those three traits would already rule out 90% of the people on a traditional dating app. So this program has already done most of the work for you - we’ve found people who, like you, actually know what they want and care about healthy relationships. More options don’t equate to a higher chance of success. If you are in the Founding Member program, our goal is that there would be 50 highly-qualified singles for you to match with. Think about it this way: where are the best matches are made? They are made in small environments like school/college, the workplace, the bar, recreational activities, or church. So you don't need a lot of people, you just need a lot of potential. And that’s what you’ll get here.
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The Founding Members Program is for singles age 21-28 located between Milwaukee, WI and Chicago, IL. Other areas and age groups will be added as the program grows.
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The six sessions are at the heart of the program. It’s what prepares people for healthy relationships, which is the goal of the program. If you aren’t ready for the six sessions you can start with individual coaching, but the six sessions are ultimately required in order to provide a good match.
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Good matches depend on knowing who someone really is. Transparent answers about faith, history, and habits are used only by the designer to assess fit. Your answers will not be shared with anyone else in the program, including potential matches. [Add your privacy commitment here.]
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Yes, it is location-specific to the extent that you participate in the program only with other singles in your age range and geographic area. The six sessions and the relationship coaching are done by phone and Zoom.
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You can reach us anytime via our contact page or email. We aim to respond quickly—usually within one business day.
Ready to begin?
The application is free. Once you apply, please give us up to one week to review your application. Once we’ve reviewed your application, we'll email you about next steps.
By Design provides coaching, education, and matches. Participation does not guarantee a match, relationship, or marriage.
For questions, please email contactme@changingus.org
Before participating in the program, you will be sent a service agreement that outlines rights and responsibilities.
