My Spouse Is Like A Child

There’s a reason your spouse acts like a child. The question is: when will they grow up? And what can you do to help when it seems like they don’t put any effort into it themselves?

Biblical Reasons For Divorce

What are the Biblical grounds for divorce? Many people who ask this question deeply desire to do God’s will. The answer you get will usually consist of “adultery, abandonment, or abuse” (or some variation of those). But let’s consider how Jesus answers that question.

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Unity in Marriage (And Unity In The Church)

Unity. It’s what we’re told marriage is about. Two becoming one. But what does that mean? Agreement? Intimacy? Togetherness? Find out how we do a disservice to our marriage and the body of Christ when we get this wrong.

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Boundaries Aren’t Working? Here’s Why (And What To Do About It)

Have you tried to set boundaries with your spouse and, rather than getting cooperation or change, you get apathy or resistance? If your boundaries aren’t working, here’s why - and what to do about it.

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5 Signs That Your Relationship Is In Bigger Trouble Than You Thought

There are some obvious signs that a relationship is in trouble: A spouse having an affair, physical abuse, alcohol or drug addiction, or pornography use - but what if none of those are present and there’s still a sense that you’re stuck? See if you’re experiencing any of these 5 signs that your relationship is in bigger trouble than you thought.

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For Men Only (Relationship Help For Husbands)

Are you a husband wanting desperately to do right by your wife and be a godly man? Men who want to improve their relationship approach their role very differently than their female counterparts (and for good reason - their role is different!). If you’re a man who is needing someone to understand your unique challenges, this article is for you.

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How To Live In A Narcissistic Relationship

It is possible to live peaceably with a narcissist. Here are 5 changes you can make in order to stay together.

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If You Think Your Spouse Is Changing, Here’s How To Know

So often I hear people say that they are seeing changes in their spouse. Slow down. Not so fast. When you think that someone is changing, here are some things to watch for.

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Living With A Narcissist (A Journey From Darkness To Light)

Living with a narcissist involves a lot of trauma and drama. But it doesn’t have to. Here is one woman’s story of how she learned to live with a narcissist.

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How To Prevent Your Child From Becoming A Narcissist (Even If They Are Being Raised By One)

I get this question a lot: My child’s other parent is a narcissist, and I’m starting to see some of that parent’s traits in my child - how can I help my child avoid becoming a narcissist? The answer is surprisingly simple. Let's take a look.

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Are You Suffering For Doing Good? (Or Are You Suffering For Tolerating Wrong?)

It’s really hard to feel verbally and emotionally beaten down every day and still count it all joy no matter how you are treated. The Bible says that it’s commendable to suffer for doing good, but it’s really hard to endure. So let’s look at what it really means to suffer for doing good.

Can God Save My Spouse?

You’ve been praying for your spouse and tolerating their unloving behavior for a long time. Will God ever change them? God transformed Saul to Paul, could he do the same thing for your spouse?

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When Your Husband Won't Lead (Or Doesn't Lead Well)

How can you help your husband step up or tone it down when it comes to leadership? Men are designated as the leaders of their families and the head of the wife, but what if he isn’t leading well - or at all? And who’s to blame?

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Honoring Parents When They Don't Deserve It

The Bible says “honor your father and mother” - but what if they aren’t honorable? What if they don’t deserve it? Is there an exception to that command? And, if not, how do you honor someone who isn’t honorable? And how do you teach your children to do the same?

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Parenting Teens (You’ll Incite Rebellion If You Do This)

A rebellious child and a strenuous marriage can both be linked to the same underlying problem. Get an understanding of what’s at the root of the problem and discover how boundaries and healthy relationships affect the success of your parenting and your marriage.

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How to Deal with a Narcissist (You’re Doing It Wrong)

So the narcissist in your life has you spinning and you need some tips on how to deal with a narcissist. No matter what you say you can’t get through to him. You can’t reason with him. You can’t get him to understand your perspective. And it’s upsetting. You’ve been trying to deal with the narcissist in all the wrong ways (obviously). Here is the best way to deal with a narcissist.

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When I Set Boundaries My Spouse Does This (What Should I Do?)

So you’ve set a boundary, and it didn’t go the way you’d hoped it would. You wanted your boundary to be respected. Here are three ways someone might respond to a boundary that you set.

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A Story of Emotional Abuse

Here’s what it feels like to be in an emotionally abusive relationship. This story is haunting but very real. If people don’t understand what your relationship is like, this might bring it to light.

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Help, My Spouse Is Angry (And So Am I)

The Bible says you shouldn’t let the sun go down while you’re still angry, but what if you feel like you have a right to be angry? There are two forms of anger - and how you handle each is different.