To solve problems in marriage, you have to identify the problem correctly. We commonly hear that your spouse is not the enemy, but can you tell if it’s Satan attacking your marriage or if it’s something else? Let’s find out.

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16 Reasons Why Bad Things Happen

When things get hard, it can help to have answers. Let’s explore 16 reasons that bad things happen.

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My Spouse Is Like A Child

There’s a reason your spouse acts like a child. The question is: when will they grow up? And what can you do to help when it seems like they don’t put any effort into it themselves?

Boundaries Aren’t Working? Here’s Why (And What To Do About It)

Have you tried to set boundaries with your spouse and, rather than getting cooperation or change, you get apathy or resistance? If your boundaries aren’t working, here’s why - and what to do about it.

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5 Signs That Your Relationship Is In Bigger Trouble Than You Thought

There are some obvious signs that a relationship is in trouble: A spouse having an affair, physical abuse, alcohol or drug addiction, or pornography use - but what if none of those are present and there’s still a sense that you’re stuck? See if you’re experiencing any of these 5 signs that your relationship is in bigger trouble than you thought.

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How To Live In A Narcissistic Relationship

It is possible to live peaceably with a narcissist. Here are 5 changes you can make in order to stay together.

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If You Think Your Spouse Is Changing, Here’s How To Know

So often I hear people say that they are seeing changes in their spouse. Slow down. Not so fast. When you think that someone is changing, here are some things to watch for.

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Will God Ever Change My Spouse? (I've Been Praying For So Long)

Have you prayed for your marriage? Have you asked God to make your husband the man you know he should be? I’m sure you have. If you’re wondering when God will respond to your prayers, here’s when . . .

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Are You Suffering For Doing Good? (Or Are You Suffering For Tolerating Wrong?)

It’s really hard to feel verbally and emotionally beaten down every day and still count it all joy no matter how you are treated. The Bible says that it’s commendable to suffer for doing good, but it’s really hard to endure. So let’s look at what it really means to suffer for doing good.

Can God Save My Spouse?

You’ve been praying for your spouse and tolerating their unloving behavior for a long time. Will God ever change them? God transformed Saul to Paul, could he do the same thing for your spouse?

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When Your Husband Won't Lead (Or Doesn't Lead Well)

How can you help your husband step up or tone it down when it comes to leadership? Men are designated as the leaders of their families and the head of the wife, but what if he isn’t leading well - or at all? And who’s to blame?

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What is God’s Will For Me In My Relationship? (How To Know What God Wants)

You don’t want to be out of God’s will, so how can you know what God wants you to do, especially when you’ve been trying to be faithful to him but things aren’t getting better? Find God’s will for you here. And take heart.

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Parenting Teens (You’ll Incite Rebellion If You Do This)

A rebellious child and a strenuous marriage can both be linked to the same underlying problem. Get an understanding of what’s at the root of the problem and discover how boundaries and healthy relationships affect the success of your parenting and your marriage.

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My Spouse Doesn't Want Me To Hold Him Accountable (Should I Stop Trying?)

Does you have someone in your life who has a problem with being held accountable? They don’t want to hear it. They get offended or angry. They tell you to mind your own business. And yet there are things they do that they shouldn’t do. How do you get them to see what they’re doing?

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When Helping Isn't Helping (Fighting for Someone Who Won't Fight for Themselves)

You just know you can help people - even if they don’t even realize they need help. You’re a problem-solver, and you know what people need. But what if your help isn’t helping? What if it makes things worse?

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Is Your Relationship Making You Depressed? (The Link Between Codependency and Depression)

Feeling depressed? You might not have considered that THIS is what could be wrong.

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Justice (And How It Brings Peace)

It’s the chant of the protestors: No justice, no peace. Know justice, know peace. Here’s how to find justice and peace in your life and in your marriage.

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Why We Shouldn't Stop Using the Term Victim

There’s a movement in DV (domestic violence) circles to stop using the term “victim.” But maybe we shouldn’t stop using that term. Here’s why.

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The Wrong Response When Someone is Being Hurt

What’s the best way to respond to a bully? If you respond the wrong way, it does more harm. And bullies can grow up to be abusers.

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How to Help Your Husband Be A Better (Man, Husband, Father)

Does your husband need to be a better husband or father? Does he suffer from depression, anxiety, or an addiction? Find out how to help him be a better man.

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